Wednesday 17 August 2016

I forget.

In today's world "I forget" means one of two things. "This thing genuinely slipped my mind" is the first. 'I forgot to bring that thing for you', 'I forgot my keys', 'I've forgotten your name' or 'I forgot to brush my teeth this morning". Innocent things that our brains did not retain or recall at that moment when we needed the information. These things are ok. I'm often found saying "I forgot what I came in to this room for". A phrase often associated with older generations but one I say with growing frequency!

The other meaning is one of "I chose to ignore that fact" or "I chose not to remember the thing". For me, this is slipping in to my vocabulary more. "I forgot we were meant to meet for coffee", "I forget when I last showered", "I forgot food is an important part of life". I forgot about coffee should actually read "sleeping was a much better coping mechanism", I forget when I last showered should read "I am ashamed with how bad I am at looking after myself" and "I forgot to eat" well, that's purely "my head is winning and therefore I'm 'busy' over meal times meaning the act of eating slips my mind". 

The latter meaning is appearing more and more often in my speech at the moment. I hate that I have to admit that. But as a result of consciously choosing to ignore the need for food and being kind to myself, I am becoming more forgetful. I used to be able to hear a person's name once, and recall it years later. I remembered faces without issue. I could remember exact dates things happened in my childhood. Now I'm struggling to remember if I managed to brush my teeth this morning (honestly? I have no idea). I've forgotten what I did yesterday because I "forgot" to nourish my brain enough to remember these details. I'm sleeping because that doesn't require my brain. I can't forget anything important if I'm asleep when I should be taking it in. My moments awake are full of lists and reminders and alarms. My memory is not reliable. 

There's one final "I forgot" in my vocabulary. The forgetting of something that was difficult or uncomfortable. I forgot how quickly this spirals. I forgot how one forgetful thing feeds in to the other. And right now? I've forgotten how to pull myself back out of this. And I'm not sure which meaning of forgotten that is.